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apophantic
Jun. 19th, 2008 03:15 pm (UTC)
You should tell THEM how you feel! First of all, I love the bunny ears. Second of all, it really sucks when parents (or anyone we really care about and trust) don't understand where we're coming from--especially when we know they have the best intentions. I've found that, in time, if you keep explaining yourself and that this IS you, they'll accept you for who you are--faults or not.

Also, while I haven't been diagnosed with serious OCD, I do have a minor OCD problem (OCD "tendencies" as the drs. put it) that drives me crazy. Sometimes, it gets in the way of my life, but mostly it's under control. Well, I suppose that's because my OCD tendencies are HOW I control my surroundings/myself...but ANYWAY, LOL, just wanted to say, "hai!" and you're not alone--no matter how alone you may feel. Your parents are there, and people do exist who understand these types of things.
lolasenvy
Jun. 19th, 2008 04:32 pm (UTC)
thanks
I see you are from New York. I love it there. I also friended you, if that's ok.

I do tell them but it rarely comes out as well as it did here, if that's an indication of how hard it can be. Plus, they can be VERY oblivious at times it seems even when I'm putting myself way out there they can miss it completely.

It's a hard walk, balancing the respect I know I should demand with the paranoia of overdemanding it or being unfair or...

well, a million other things in my head at any given time.
apophantic
Jun. 19th, 2008 05:11 pm (UTC)
Re: thanks
I'm glad you friended me! I friended you a few weeks back at angry_biscuit's rec--I think I left a comment, but you prob get so many requests that it's difficult to manage them all ;)
(I think we have some fandoms in common... XD)

Anyway, the balance between demanding what you deserve and demanding more than should be expected is a difficult one to reach. I feel like that balance is never comfortable, and often in flux. Also, while people tell me (and maybe you) that the concern of being over-demanding is "paranoia" -- I don't always think it is. I mean...you have the right to demand things from the people you love and who love you, but how much can one really expect? That's the line I have a hard time finding, but maybe it's because I'm paranoid...LOL

I think that your vlog very clearly articulates your feelings in a way that, even if they didn't grasp the entire meaning, they would feel touched for your words, thoughts, and concerns. I know this might not be possible--but perhaps consider showing it to them? Or, at least, sending them the audio file? You could just say, "I've been wanting to say this, and when journaling it just came out in a way I don't think can be reproduced." Or something...

Anyway, I don't really know you (yet) I just was very touched by your vlog and wanted to let you know. (Feel free to IM me, folkrockergrrrl on AIM or on LJ chat, if you want ;)
lolasenvy
Jun. 20th, 2008 05:35 am (UTC)
Re: thanks
They are members of my friend's list, all of them. Hopefully, they won't just scroll past this and they will actually watch it. That's what I mean by oblivious.

Wow, such kind things to say! I hope we get to chat. Just don't take it personally if I don't respond once in a while. I leave it running even if I'm not home.